Question asked to me

Someone asked me a question recently, “You hide yourself behind al kinds of sayings on your facebook pages, mainly for young women, what do you want to achieve with that?”.

Empath

First, I’m an empath, I feel and I feel a lot, already my whole life. For a large part of my life I was unconscious of me being empathic. Having to deal with feelings not only of my own but of the people around me, I just didn’t know. As a kid I always lost fights, I couldn’t hurt an other human being.

In my childhood I experienced sexual abuse and was shamed and blamed for my sexuality and as an adolescent I developed a sex addiction. I never harmed a person because of that. Fortunately I had a lot of safe guards around it. But still, watching pornography is abusive on an energetic level, I know now. I have been incredibly lonely in my childhood, not being able to talk about what happened to me. 

Question

Over the last decade or so I was able to resolve a lot of my patterns around sexuality, but the journey still continues. Still I feel the desire to fully balance my masculine and feminine energies. I haven’t trusted my masculine energy since I was a kid. I recently found out, the energy of my abuser was a familiar male energy, so no wonder.

Do I hide myself? Not anymore, I put my story out there a couple of days ago, after my dear friend Meg had the guts to tell her story publicly. That is why I’m writing this story, because the world needs to know how damaging uncontrolled and violent expression of male sexual energy can be.

Man

I’m a man, a human being with the attributes of a man, a penis and more. The ability to penetrate. That is why I feel that I as a man have a great responsibility agains women, who receive, who are extremely vulnerable. I know I made my mistakes. In wars, man have not only used swords and guns. Men also used their penis to show their power and humiliated women. This is still happening all over the world.

Even I as a man feel vulnerable in the masculine society we live in, I feel ashamed by the way men speak amongst each other about women. They have no clue about the sacredness of women, they have no clue about the creative forces harnessed in a woman’s body. When they start to know and are able to respect it, the world will be a different place.

Pain

When I work with young women, I feel the hurt of being a woman in a masculine society, especially here in Peru, South America. The pain I feel goes back many generations as woman have been seen as inferior to men. They are still being seen and treated that way. I also hear the stories of abuse and feel the energy that is in some men I encountered. Not all, I also met some very sensitive men. The women I see in my Reiki and Inner Child workshops are not there just by accident. Many times I had tears in my eyes feeling what was going on.

So, what do I want to achieve with that? That, is working with young women and posting uplifting messages on my facebook page. 

I feel, part of my purpose is to support the light in this world. The way I do this at the moment, is giving my classes. The other part has to do with women. Working with them, I realise, is also about healing myself, redefining my relationship between my inner masculine and feminine. I know I have my flaws and they are part of my wholeness. The other part is contributing to the balance of the male and the female in our societies.

Comfortable

Of course the balance is about both men and women, but men are for me not so approachable as women. Probably because I still have problems trusting my own and other male energies. But also because of the harsh energy many man carry. So, working with women I feel much more comfortable and I also feel this is the way for me at the moment. The stronger and more self confident women are, the more they take their power, the more the balance will shift. I also feel I will be working with men in the future. 

Working with the wounded inner child, Bethany Webster talks about “The Mother Wound” and this is the inherited subordinate feelings of women through the generations in the masculine society. I raise this subject in all my workshops, more than 80% of my participants is female.

As an empath I feel the hurt of many generations when I’m working with women and I have the feeling I understand. In the lifetimes I had on the planet, I experienced all, the good and the bad, the victim and the perpetrator, all shades of grey. This knowing is there for me, so I know deep inside the horrors women have gone through. 

No question

Now it is time to contribute and dedicate my time and energy to support restoring the balance. In there is the Light, there is where the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine can emerge and blend and spark the Divine Light that illuminates Heaven on Earth. I feel in all my bones that this is going to happen. It’s not a matter any more of if, but when.

The Sacred Female

Have we forgotten how sacred our female human beings are? Has our patriarchal society doomed women to be less than men? The world is still ruled by men, even God in the catholic church is pictured as a male figure.

Male dominance

Time to change and restore the image of women in our society and the balance between the male and female energies that rule our societies and the world.  

Sacred female, male dominance

Many centuries and many generations men have dictated the world with their male energy, strong and competitive. Even their own inner balance has shifted towards the extremes of male behaviour. Resulting in the extremes visible in our societies, competition, wars, greed, racism. Often women in power use mostly their masculine side to be able to function in the male dominated corporate and political world.

What values are our societies build on, that originate from the male influence over the eons of time where men were ruling the world? Perhaps it is even the absence of certain values that cause the suffering for many. Co-operation, compassion, harmony, etc. are base values we lack for a large part in todays society. The mind is ruling the world, the mind with its masculine energy. The connection is lost for a large part with the Heart, with our intuition, disconnected from the messages of our soul, our mind rules on its own, separated from the Higher values of life. No wonder things go wrong, like a car with no driver, the car can become a deadly weapon. Our intuition, our gut-feel is our navigation system, gives us safe boundaries, allows us to live our lives based on the Higher values from our soul.

Mind

We think, yes that’s the mind again, that intuition belongs only to women and that is not true. Because of the imbalance in the male person between the masculine and the feminine, many man cannot hear their intuition very well or the mind changes the message before the message reaches consciousness. 

I love the song from John Lennon, Imagine, in essence for me he sings about the shift from the male dominance to the balance in the energies. Imagine a world living in harmony and peace, no greed, no fear, no wars and no competition.

“You may say I’m a dreamer,
but I’m not the only one,
I hope someday you’ll join us,
And the world will live as one.”

Writen by: John Lennon

One of the things we need to change, is our view of the female and see the Sacredness again and incorporate this in our way of living. Especially important for the women themselves and off course for men.

The woman is Sacred

Sacred female

Our women are Sacred because they are able to create life. Yes, the man is needed, but he only contributes for a very brief moment in this creation process. A co-creation with the spirit that wants to incarnate on Earth, the spirit that chose the mother and the father as its parents. The rest is solely done by the woman, the Sacred woman who carries life inside of her and is capable of birthing a new human being into this world, enabling a soul to have a life on our beautiful planet. It is the love of All That Is that is transferred to the new born through the heart of the mother. She is the first one to welcome this new soul on Earth. That is why the woman is Sacred.

Union

The woman is receiving, the woman receives the man, the man is penetrating and gives. When the woman wants to receive the man and he is able to give himself entirely to the woman, not just the flesh, but with his whole energy, from the level of his soul, magic can happen. Then the woman can completely surrender to the man and the energies can merge into an incredibly powerful creative force. The blending of the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine is able to create a spark of God, a spark of light so powerful and so bright it is felt in the whole universe.

Huge transformation can take place when their communion comes from this highest level. The high Priestess and the high Priest connecting their energies on all levels can create lasting ecstasy, can create heaven on Earth. The Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine walking the Earth hand in hand, turning everything in gold radiating energy.

That is what men in general have forgotten, who see women as less, as objects of lust, as objects for abuse.

The rise of the feminine

There is work to be done both by men and woman, both in their own specific way, both equally important. 

Our society will only change when we change, the change from within. It makes no sense to wait for politicians and leaders. They are more interested in the status quo, where they are in power and stay in power. It is everybody’s own responsibility to find their own way to authenticity, the balance of the Male and Female energies, the embodiment of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine.

We all have been imprinted by ancestral distorted energies that have been passed down from generation to generation within a patriarchal context. Now is the time to break the cycle. 

Women

Bethany Webster writes about the Mother wound, the suppression of the female in the patriarchal society. This imposed believe systems on women about who they supposed to be, energies of abuse passed on through generations. Guild and shame about being a female is a theme for many women. This asks for deep inner work to remove these believes and the pain that is associated with it. The inner child carries these wounds and wants to be healed. Healed to free herself from the male societal suppression. So you can find the way to balance your own female and male energies and step into your own Sacredness.

Men 

In a similar way men have been imprinted and have been handed down believes about manhood from many generations. Skewed believes about how a man should be, to be manly. Believes around sexuality, power, possession and competition that rules out and sidetracks their own inner feminine. “Boys don’t cry” is one of the sayings suppressing the female part and putting all the emphasis on the masculine energy. Our schooling system does something similar, emphasis on the mind, away from the Heart. This has huge consequences.

Violence against women—it’s a men’s issue: Jackson Katz at TEDxFiDiWomen shows how the focus from the perpetrator very quickly goes to the victim and the violence is changed in a women’s issue. Jackson Katz turns things around again and shows it is a men’s problem. 

In our society  we don’t have any initiation rituals anymore around manhood. We have no education on relationships, communication, consent and healthy male behaviour. The only references youngsters have, are the generational imprints and the examples they have in their lives. They come  from parents, caretakers, teachers and their friends. Not much is done to calibrate their internal compass to guide them to healthy manhood.

Me Too

Fortunately more and more men become aware of the skewed believes that are seen as “normal” in our society. Leaders are exposed for their unacceptable behaviour towards women. Women are stepping up, see the Me Too movement. Change is on its way, the inner feminine in men is waking up and the conversation  is starting.

Through the inner work also men can free themselves from the tyranny of the past and align themselves again with the higher values of life. Values of respect, unconditional love, equality and sacredness of all humans, all living beings. Not only women in their Divinity, but also Divine masculinity which is the perfect balance between the inner feminine and the inner masculine in the male body.

Inner child

Australia 2018. “The child in the age of 18 months to 3 year can be a challenge for the parents. Kids behave very self-centred and touch everything”. After explaining a bit more about the emotional mess a kid can get into when parents are in a failing relationship and abuse is taking place, it’s time for an exercise. “Please write a letter to your inner child about how well you know each other and be specific about one situation in particular. Tell her that you are going to take care of her”. I see long letters coming. “No, you don’t have to share them”, I say, where I would otherwise ask them to read them to each other. Something is holding me back. “Close your eyes and relax your body. Breath three times deeply. “ Remember the first house you lived in…” 

Inner Child sadness
Photo by Kat J on Unsplash

At the end of the meditation Renae is sobbing, tears rolling down her cheeks. “ My uncle touched  me”, she whispers. Even more tears. The whole class is silent. Her friend gives her a hug. “I’m glad he is dead”, she says. So, I invite her to come in the middle. Everybody hugs her and whispers comforting words. It is the first time she says something about this, except for her mother, but her response was not very helpful for her. She has the courage to speak up. Therefore her healing has begun….

Sexual abuse

is a situation where there is no consent between two people for being touched with a sexual intent. Especially when children are involved who have no say in the matter. Manipulation, secrecy and loneliness adds to the severity of the wounds that are created. The damage is done and requires attention to change the behavioural patterns that arise as a result of the wounds. 

So, heal the wounds of your Inner child, she / he deserves it, because you deserve it!

Renae did it…

Sexual abuse

More than 55 years ago I experienced sexual abuse. As a 7 year old boy I was harassed in the dark by a man in a long coat, having me touch his penis. Although this might seem a small incident, it had a huge impact on my life. It was not the only incident. Somewhere along the line I experienced a form of energetic abuse. Where the first experience left a vivid image, still I can feel physical what happened. The other time has a blurry memory, where I felt the strong sexual desire of someone to abuse me. In an energetic way, it already took place, not leaving physical sensations, but an energetic imprint.

The blossom Tree, man in dark
Photo by Sergiu Nista on Unsplash

Tools

The tools I worked with, around sexual abuse, where Reiki and Inner Child work. My best friend and Sister in Australia helped me a lot to go through the many layers of the abuse. It’s not only the emotions of the fact itself, like disgust, fear and disbelieve. Also not being able to talk to anybody about it. The feelings of loneliness with my story, feelings of it being my fault and many others.

Healing Sexual abuse

In time, after disclosure, I was able to heal myself, deal with all the emotions and get the energy out of the situations. I remember the numerous occasions I was talking to my inner child about all the feelings he still had around the abuse. Oh boy, what did he suffer all that time.

It’s not over yet. My sexual energy has been distorted for a long time, not only because of the incidents, but also because of the shame and blame that happened around my sexuality as a young kid wanting to know the difference between boys and girls, as at home we only had boys and during my schooling sexes were strictly separated.

Masculine energy

I’m still dealing with my male energy as I have not trusted this energy since I was a child. Now I’m at the level where I am working with my male energy to start trusting it again and find the inner harmony with both my masculine and feminine energies.

What helped me a lot with the sexual abuse, was the change of perspective, from being a victim to the spiritual perspective of having chosen for this experience from a soul perspective. This took me out of the victimhood to a more empowered place. When I chose for this, then what am I supposed to do with it? One of the things is to talk about it, bring it to the light and support others with similar experiences. This is starting to happen.

Reiki class

Reiki class
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We are about to finish the Reiki class. “Are there any questions?” “Yes,” Sophia says, “my leg hurts, already for some time and I have trouble walking long distance. Can I do something about that?” “Where does it hurt?” “Here, in the side of my upper leg” I look at her for a little while. “I have a question for you, is it from this lifetime or an other?” She looks at me with a frown on her face and she closes her eyes for a second. “Not from now” she says thoughtfully. “Have an other look, what do you see?”  She looks down again and feels her leg. “Yes, there is something sticking out of my leg” “It’s a dagger, isn’t it? Now pull it carefully out and hold your hand on that place. Allow the Reiki energy to flow so the wound can heal”.

Healing

Sophia is one of my Reiki students and a very sensitive person. She is very much connected to the energy of time and space and is able to look into other lifetimes, not only for herself but also for others. She is a journalist from South America and a feminist activist. A couple of weeks later we meet again. “You know Henk,” I gave Reiki to myself on that spot”, while pointing on her upper leg, “and the pain in my leg went away in just a couple of days and has never returned, I can use my leg normal now” “You did a good job” I said to her, “ you healed your leg well”.

The same evening she asked for my date and place of birth. After bringing up my star-chart, she gave me an astrologic reading. I only can say, spot on. Now she is moving on for her work, next stop for her is Europe. Thank you Sophia, for being part of my life.

Reiki and more in Cusco

After arriving in Cusco, I spent some time in hostels and explored a bit of the city and did a guided tour. On the 3rd day I found a place to stay long term. I rented a room in a private apartment. The Monday after I could come, but before that I became sick in the hostel I was staying in. It turned out to be altitude sickness, but it looked like the flu. After a bottle of oxygen, I felt myself again.

The blossom Tree Cusco city
Cusco city

That Monday, I checked in with Inés, my landlady. In the first 2 weeks I took my time to adjust to the hight of Cusco, 3400 meters above sea level. When our other house mate arrived, back from Lima, we talked about Reiki. Pretty soon the first Reiki course started. In the living room, with 4 participants.

After that, many more Reiki 1 courses followed, at the time of writing 8 courses. In these courses I have trained more than 20 people here in Peru. Because Peru is Spanish, I decided to take Spanish classes and that is a really good help in communicating with the Peruvians.

The blossom Tree Street Food
Street Food

Since I arrived in Cusco, a bit more than 1,5 months have passed. Time goes very fast. I feel blessed to have done so much work already. The next project is Reiki 2 and Inner child work, Which will start before the end of this month!

The Blossom Tree San Blas Market
San Blas Market

Iquitos, Reiki is starting in the jungle, Peru

Iquitos, after my decision to stay with a family, just for 2 days, interesting things started happening. The first evening I went to the boulevard by motor taxi and the taxi driver robbed me. I felt sad, angry and disappointed. It was not the first time, also on the boat coming back from the jungle, the guys on the boat went through our luggage and took out some stuff.

A policeman brought me home and the family immediately wanted to help. We went to the tourist police and one of the family members helped out with the translation. There they heard my profession, Maestro de Reiki. Back home we talked about my work and mother and daughter were very interested in a Reiki course. So that is what I offered them. I changed my ticket for a few days and so we did the Reiki 1 course in their Patio. Eventually 6 people turned up and with the great translation of the daughter, we had a beautiful Reiki 1 class.

Reiki in Iquitos

Only a couple of days later I took the plane to Cusco. New adventures waiting to be born!