Australia 2018. “The child in the age of 18 months to 3 year can be a challenge for the parents. Kids behave very self-centred and touch everything”. After explaining a bit more about the emotional mess a kid can get into when parents are in a failing relationship and abuse is taking place, it’s time for an exercise. “Please write a letter to your inner child about how well you know each other and be specific about one situation in particular. Tell her that you are going to take care of her”. I see long letters coming. “No, you don’t have to share them”, I say, where I would otherwise ask them to read them to each other. Something is holding me back. “Close your eyes and relax your body. Breath three times deeply. “ Remember the first house you lived in…”
At the end of the meditation Renae is sobbing, tears rolling down her cheeks. “ My uncle touched me”, she whispers. Even more tears. The whole class is silent. Her friend gives her a hug. “I’m glad he is dead”, she says. So, I invite her to come in the middle. Everybody hugs her and whispers comforting words. It is the first time she says something about this, except for her mother, but her response was not very helpful for her. She has the courage to speak up. Therefore her healing has begun….
is a situation where there is no consent between two people for being touched with a sexual intent. Especially when children are involved who have no say in the matter. Manipulation, secrecy and loneliness adds to the severity of the wounds that are created. The damage is done and requires attention to change the behavioural patterns that arise as a result of the wounds.
So, heal the wounds of your Inner child, she / he deserves it, because you deserve it!
Renae did it…